What the romantic needs to know:

Some people enjoy describing themselves as ‘hopeless romantics,’ and although it sounds like a solid term to use, it is very hard to have it be a part of reality. The hopeless romantic is one in which one dreams of walks on the beach, dancing in the rain, and other fanciful tales that only show up in cheesy romantic comedies. In all reality, that does not happen, and to be a hopeless romantic is to hold romance to such a degree that any slight romantic tinge in one’s life seems to fall short, and not be worth the effort to achieve the unrealistic goal one has set for themselves; it is to set yourself up for failure.

The hopeless romantic believes in true love and that “one,” but when thought is put to this, urges change, and it is only right for that to be so. Look at the many horrid marriages that plague our society, causing who knows how much harm to any children involved. To let this fact be known is to be honest with oneself, and this is what the ultimate goal should be; if you cannot be honest with yourself, how could you be honest with loved ones and acquaintances? Wouldn’t it be great to look up at the Moon and it actually be the case that your destined lover is looking at same time? Of course. It is what fairy tales are made of.

Since the attainment of an unforeseen goal of romance is unknowable, many attempts are made to keep any sort of love that one feels towards others; they wish that the other participant in this duo reciprocates the deep feelings that one may feel. To this end, different routes will be tried, which include, but are not limited to: waiting on the person night and day, trying to please them even when it hurts ones self-worth, and other self-defeating actions.

To find “the one” (which is a very allusive, if not impossible, thing to realize), the romantic turns to high goals, and may become shallow. Great thought is put into the perfect mate, and everyone met is judged by this standard, which is usually perfection only attained by those in magazines. It could be said to the romantic that they are delusional and should lay off, but to the romantic, the game of attaining a lover is half the fun. Yes, heartbreak usually is plentiful during the game, but in the end, isn’t the end goal worth it?

In an ideal world, true love would be easily found, but this is not the case, and to give one high aspirations is to set oneself up for failure. Dreaming of the perfect relationship is great for daydreams, but when it comes to finding and building a loving, caring relationship, one must be able to fall short of their ideals, accept love when it emerges, and live.

-FrankEinstein